God is Good?

Confession for today.

I am quite sick of people's reactions lately to good news. Various people around me have had wonderful things happening, which, I agree is good. But the reaction to the news is so often, "God is good."

Yeah, someone's pregnant...."Isn't God good!"

Someone got a job.... "God is so good!" or worse...as a father of # kids he deserves it (and my husband doesn't?)

It really seems to negate all of God's goodness at other times of life.

God seems to be so good when things go well.

But what about when things don't go well?

What about when we are barren....still!

What about when we don't know where finances are coming from? or don't get the/a job?

What about when life is one big struggle after another?


Corrie Ten Boom said once in response to someone telling her how good God was because she had a cozy home and things were going well, that God was still good in the concentration camps. God was still good when her sister, Betsy, died and they lived though a taste of hell.

It's easy to say God is good when things go well. Actually it seems to be a line people give off offhandedly. But if God is God, He is good all the time.

He is still good when things are discouraging. When things are downright awful.

Let's not forget God's goodness to those who are having a hard time. (And please, let's try not to flaunt the "goodness" when everything is going right.)

"Get Over It"

Three of the worst words you could hear.



Three of the worst words you could say to someone.



"Get over it" negates any emotion you have towards the situation.
"Get over it" implies the guilt is on you.
"Get over it" assumes that "getting over it" is easy.


We have emotions, often immensely deep emotions, about our situation. Obviously, because if we didn't there would be nothing to spark the "get over it" response.

Don't ignore my feelings.


We already feel guilty. In one way or another we feel guilt. I admit, it's misplaced guilt, but telling myself that doesn't make it go away.

I don't need you to heap more guilt and judgement on me. 


"Getting over it" is one of the most difficult things to do. A giant piece has been ripped out of me. You don't just get over that. Furthermore, do I actually need to get over it? Do I have to ignore my feelings of loss and sadness. Sure I would like to get to that place of "okay with the situation", and where time has healed the rawness, but maybe the accusing party should consider that it might be okay to grieve a loss, maybe it's even healthy to be sad at times (like Mother's day). We don't want to be stuck there, but we don't want to become dead inside. We need to live and to feel.

Don't kill me.