Saturday, 23 February 2013

"Get Over It"

Three of the worst words you could hear.

Three of the worst words you could say to someone.

"Get over it" negates any emotion you have towards the situation.
"Get over it" implies the guilt is on you.
"Get over it" assumes that "getting over it" is easy.

We have emotions, often immensely deep emotions, about our situation. Obviously, because if we didn't there would be nothing to spark the "get over it" response.

Don't ignore my feelings.

We already feel guilty. In one way or another we feel guilt. I admit, it's misplaced guilt, but telling myself that doesn't make it go away.

I don't need you to heap more guilt and judgement on me. 

"Getting over it" is one of the most difficult things to do. A giant piece has been ripped out of me. You don't just get over that. Furthermore, do I actually need to get over it? Do I have to ignore my feelings of loss and sadness. Sure I would like to get to that place of "okay with the situation", and where time has healed the rawness, but maybe the accusing party should consider that it might be okay to grieve a loss, maybe it's even healthy to be sad at times (like Mother's day). We don't want to be stuck there, but we don't want to become dead inside. We need to live and to feel.

Don't kill me.

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